There are different types of women when it comes to what they value most. Let me show you the difference between a woman who values the brain (I’ll call her “Smarty”) and a woman who values wisdom (I’ll call her “Wisdom”).

Every time Smarty sees a mistake, she will point it out to her man and makes sure he knows he is mistaken, while pairing it with an “I told you so”. Wisdom, on the other hand, will try to support her man or pretend that nothing happened, and let him figure things out on his own. If there is a crisis in the family, Smarty will rule her way and show how to handle things properly. Wisdom will softly convey a message of possibility to do things differently while letting him ponder and figure it out.

Smarty will be teaching her kids mathematics, statistics, soccer, etc. Wisdom will create a curriculum based on her kids abilities and promote their well-being. Smarty, in her work place, will try to avoid any mistakes and be a perfectionist, therefore creating some sort of tension. Wisdom will try to create a friendly environment where everyone will feel free to be themselves.

Smarty will be teaching rules to her adult kids on how to live and raise children correctly, and Wisdom will just let her loved ones have their own experience. Smarty will blame the world and will try to change other people. Wisdom will start by understanding that she is the cause and the effect, and what will be, will be.

Those are only a few comparisons I can give here, but those are few enough for you to think and see how different those two positions are.

What is the biggest value for Smarty? Her righteousness, winning over others because of her superiority, and her own sense of importance. While for Wisdom, the most important thing is to create peaceful relationships where everyone feels free to be themselves, loved and welcomed. Another difference is in what those two are receiving from the outside world. Smarty, while making everyone feel at fault, gets nothing but other people’s frustration, while Wisdom gets flowers, dresses, a ring, etc. It is not about materialistic things per se, it is about the symbolic adornment and appreciation.

A man wants to be next to a woman who supports him, showers him with love, softness, and sweet smiles. He wants to be with the one who creates love around, who is feminine, and can ask for help without reservations. Someone who brings beauty and love in his and everyone’s world.

He doesn’t want to be with a know-it-all “Smarty” lady.

Smarty is the woman who denies her God-given abilities to be a woman. We are all capable of being the smartest ones in the room, but as women we have the ability to convert that intelligence to wisdom and lead as women. So many people on my site and the dialogue pages want to go on about the mistaken view that I am suggesting that women be dumb and submissive. I am not in any way saying that. I am observing that women take the intelligence they have and the femininity they have, and become wise, loving, leading, and caring women. Our intended place in the universe is to give care, guidance, and love. In a perfect situation, the universe will guide us to a man that we can care for and love. He will protect and provide for us, while we better the world with family and knowledge, and all that is within us as women. As women we have responsibilities that come with our power. In so many ways we are so strong and so amazing, but sometimes we let our ego take us away from our best path.

Be strong as women, but be a woman who is wise and loving, and not in competition to win and always be right.