So I have a friend who over the last couple months has told me that she doesn’t want to stay at home anymore. She feels things at home are becoming stale, uninteresting and pretty much every other synonym of the word boring.

Yesterday, I met another woman who said to me that her grandmother taught her that she had to earn money herself and never to rely on anyone else.

Recently, I have been thinking a lot about societies dismissive position on the stay at home mom/wife. It seems that in modern day society, women who choose to prioritize having a family means nothing, moreover, it is seen as almost a punishment or lack of ambition, intelligence, and success.

This made me begin to ponder on what the difference between a woman who doesn’t have a family and those who do.

Speaking from personal experience, I have lived many years of my life on both sides of the fence. When comparing the two based on my personal experiences, I came to a simple conclusion.

So let me start by asking you to look around you, or perhaps in a mirror and find out which side of the fence you currently stand on. There is the woman who is probably single, most likely pretty and incredibly successful at work. She is very professional and earns enough to satisfy her needs and desires. She spends a lot of time at work and goes out with coworkers for lunch and dinner. She has an incredibly active social life and is valuable by social standards. Based on the picture modern media has painted of the “perfect woman” this kind of woman falls right in line.

From my experience, when this type of woman is alone, this is the time all her insecurities and demons come out.

Loneliness settles in as she begins to think about her future. Our nature is such that we enjoy the feeling of security. This is one of our basic needs. In the situation we are discussing, financial security may be established but emotional security is lacking. A woman’s innate nature is seeking security. In the scenario we are discussing, it is missing. The girl may have money but she has no one to spend it on except for herself. She has no one to care for.

I have heard woman rejoice over having the fact that they are independent. Down the road, however, when they help somebody out of unconditional love they look truly happy. It doesn’t have to be a person, it can be a pet, as long as it is someone they sincerely care about and wish to help. Only a few people actually recognize this and even fewer are willing to actually admit it.

So to segue into a more interesting part of this topic, when analyzing society’s standard of successful women in modern media, they are usually strong, successful in their career and incredibly independent. Have you ever considered the image of a successful woman as a good wife and successful mom? Probably not.

Well, I’m here to introduce the amazing skill sets that women who stay at home have and use every day to take care of her family.

She is a therapist and psychologist.

She needs to be attentive when listening to her husband and her kids. She needs to be a part of their lives, analyzing their issues and guide them through their struggles day-in and day out.

She is an educator.

She teaches her kids by example. She needs to learn how to foster a child’s personality without killing his real nature but helping a child build a strong foundation in order to prosper in the future.

She is a manager.

She looks over all things in the house and makes sure everything and everybody gets what they need on time. Something that usually we are taught. To parallel this idea, many business schools teach us how to manage our time and resources to achieve the best results with the resources we are given.

She is a chief.

She works to provide a variety of fresh, delicious meals every day so everyone at the table is satisfied. It’s an art, really.

She is a housekeeper.

She keeps the house clean. It is not fun and in many ways is exhausting. It requires management and takes time to learn. How to keep up with laundry and not ruin things. How to iron things so they could stay intact and last years.

She is a designer.

She is a woman who is responsible for decorating the house. Making sure everything is to her liking.

She is a lover.

Sex life is very important in a relationship. She needs to understand how to not only make her man happy but also what will make her happy.

She is an event planner.

She is the one who buys tickets to performances, movies and makes sure she is staying up to date on her kid’s interests.

She is the emergency contact.

If anything ever happens with her child, she is the first person to take action. If something happens to her husband she runs to try and help.

She is an actress.

She understands how to convey her emotions properly, without going over the top. She can signal to her family what is acceptable behavior and what is not.

She is a secretary.

She helps her husband with errands and makes sure he is given the best opportunity to be as productive as possible.

And lastly, She is able to take care of herself – so she can be a queen of the household….

How about that?

I bet you have never thought about that before, and honestly, because of media, it wasn’t until recently that I figured this out for myself.

Before I wrote this article it took me a couple of days to have this realization and develop this deep appreciation for stay-at-home women. I was knee deep in my own arrogance, that I failed to realize this very apparent truth. Bottom line is I was terribly embarrassed by my own ego.

The happiness of a woman is determined directly by her ability to follow her nature. It requires you to put your own selfishness behind you but there is a sense of purpose and gratification at the end of the journey. That is the purpose of a woman, that is the purpose of being a REAL woman.

I understand that this is a lot to digest and I hope that this at least triggered you think on the subject. You still have the power to change and rebuild your female image while still being strong, proud, beautiful, happy, creative and more. Trust me, your world will become better.