I have several very successful people around me that I have been observing. I have always been interested in the phenomena that surround them; the phenomena that create the illusion that they have no life, right?! Yet they do. If you look at their schedule they have tons meetings to attend to, dinners and other social events. They almost always have families and do sports. Not only that, they stay ahead on a lot of things including news, new waves in whatever area of work they are in and they have a torrent of incoming money and success…. pretty picture correct? I bet a lot of us would love to be in their shoes… but only a few of us think of what all of that requires from us in order to maintain that kind of life…..

Many of those people they are very efficient in their communication meaning that if someone asks them a question, they listen carefully, think and respond eloquently and to-the-point. If they have a thought that requires them to reach out to somebody for something, they usually do so right away rather than wait. They have respect for other people’s time and life instead of taking things for granted. They are always polite no matter how bad their day was. They always respond to any email/text even though they may not feeling well and are in bed. They take care of their health and in all fairness, they barely seem to get sick.

I invite you to look around. Many of us would love to have a life like that, right?! It will boost our ego for sure… Success, the idea of being needed, having the ability to provide something to someone else no one else can… enticing traits to say the least.

A similar topic that has recently caught my eye is the fact that I’ve seen a lot of people who want or pretend to have a lifestyle that resembles that of the rich and successful but is not willing to do the necessary maintenance required to obtain such a lifestyle.  I’m not really sure if they understand that there is a large amount of maintenance that is required daily and hourly to achieve this kind of success.

We all have people who will smile widely and tell us everything is great once they come in into a room. Then, when you communicate with them you find yourself with weird answers as if they don’t hear what you say… Instead, they have a whole movie in their own head full of presumptions and assumptions when they talk. I found myself puzzled during those interactions thinking what was wrong with my words. It took me some time to understand that is not me that is the problem, it is their inability to listen and pay attention to another person. Another situation involving people like this; if a person gets sick or feel not good omg, we are going to see the whole nine yard of a story of misery…. even though their sickness might not be that bad, they act like it’s the end of the world. See the difference between that picture and a successful person?!

So the question is why so many people envy success but when push comes to shove they prefer to play their misery rather than take responsibility for their life?

It doesn’t appeal to them to be on top of their life. Many of them are so lazy to communicate properly that it is not even funny. Unfortunately, all of those aspects are introduced to the majority of people….. that is why we don’t have too many successful people.

When I think about it, when I look around I ask myself what do I want and you know what… I do like success too and I do want to be free from financial burdens BUT I’m willing to take a responsibility for my life, I’m willing to serve others forgetting about myself, I’m willing to wake up every day and do necessary maintenance for this, I’m willing to do all of that because at the end of the day it is only me who feels satisfaction and derives benefits from all my actions that were done earlier the day. It’s hard when you start to learn how to stay alert all the time but it is worth it… every minute every effort… Try it and share your success with me.