I know that many of you when reading articles think – “I am not going to sit home, not going to serve that stupid man, not going to become a dumb chicken mama because everyone who stays at home is close to degrading”. But are those concerns justified? Can a woman be truly happy and fulfilled 100% at home? Without question, the answer is YES!

I know many of you are going to yell at me, hate me, and tell me there is no data to back up that manifestation. But do you think that things like that need to have a poll? Need to get a study? Really? We have become so reliant on using other people’s brains, rather than thinking for ourselves with our brains that were given to us at birth.

So my answer is YES – a woman can be totally fulfilled in family, but so-called modern women don’t seem to want that. Our society has been pressing our brains with gender equality, with competition, with twisted moral standards.

Therefore, many of us live by the ideology that “I can’t rely on my husband financially as it makes me less equal”. Women come up with thousands of reasons how to “be free” from “that cage”.

Why do you think many of us view home life as a “cage” and then see an “escape” when we get to work outside of the home? Because there is a “freedom”. Here are a few reasons:

• Being a home-maker in all kind of ways is huge work for a woman. Of course it is. Do you think it’s easy to cook, clean the house, do dishes, and do laundry? Isn’t it easier to go to work all dressed up, with make-up on? To do your job, leave home at the end of your shift, and not have any responsibilities other than showing up next day? There is certain pay, hours, and responsibilities that come with a job, easy-peasy. You have tons of freedom. You take your money and do whatever you want with it. All co-worker situations and “work games” are nothing compared to how hard emotional involvement is with our children, husband, and parents. Today, however, women still carry responsibilities at home after they’re done spending time at work. Can you imagine what is left of them after their competitive and stressful day at work? Who do you think comes back home? To hug their children and smile at their husband?

•  Have you heard the word – “karma”? I’m sure you have. So, the biggest portion of karmic events, traumas, and challenges for a woman come essentially from her relationships at home. Those challenges are related to the relationship with her spouse because she gets hurt. Sometimes with kids who don’t want to do what she wants them to do, parents who still see her as a little one and annoy her. They are the ones who behave like children when they get older, which is upsetting. Therefore, it’s easier and less stressful for her to work rather than deal with all that on a daily basis.

• Nowadays, in our “male-dominated world”, those who rely on a husband are looked down upon by women who chose the different path. Therefore, according to the crowd, a woman who stays home is perceived as stupid, not educated, not capable of anything, and a boring person. If a guy stays home, we all perceive him ONLY like that: as lazy. Unfortunately, the modern world pretty much vigorously implements a unisex pattern that eliminates any difference between the sexes. But do you think there is a reason we have a different body structure or reproductive organs? Or it is all just worthless creation, and both, men and women, organs work the same and produce things the same? Where do you see unisex in that? I personally see a big difference between female and male organs. If we erase those differences, why are we surprised when men can’t act like men, women can’t/won’t have families, and they hate dresses? Of course, women have no rights to stay home under that “unisex” policy. They have no rights to be feminine because society blames them for following their nature.

However, if you accept that we are different to start with, it’ll be much easier to accept our bodies (that so many of us hate). It’ll be easier to understand and accept our mood fluctuations (most of us feel guilty when we are moody).

If you accept that, you’ll see that there is an arrow that points to a path that one should follow naturally (by our very nature).

How many times have you heard about “finding your path”? A man has to achieve things in life. A woman has to take care of people and give herself to the world. What would be your answer if you were asked upon your deathbed – what did you give to the world? A couple million dollars over the course of life? Does that sound okay? To me, it sounds truly pathetic and lost.

I am not advocating you to only stay home. You can work, should you feel that is your path. The difference is in the way you approach it. I’m advocating you to be less harsh, less angry, less competitive. I ask you to take care of coworkers, take care of people around, spread your smile and softness at work. I am asking you to take down your defenses and stop throwing around money, power, responsibilities, and so on. I’m asking you to ask men a question and say ”thank you”. To ask for his help and smile after he does. I am asking you to tell him “you can do it, and I will help if you want”, and follow your words. Do not say “I’ll take care of it because you are not capable”.

Women in many organizations are truly needed, but not the way society has brainwashed us to think we should be needed. Our world needs to have leaders that are women, not the angry Medusa’s, but loving women who spread calmness, softness, clear visions, and good intentions. Those are the true leaders!  Mother Teresa is an example of this. Once again, I’m not advocating you to leave your comfortable house or apartment, and travel around helping others. I am asking you to be loving, kind, and giving through whatever area of business you are in. You still can be a “real woman” in a “man’s world”. Watch the movie, “The Post”. Meryl Streep in that role is a perfect example of what I am asking you to become.

Some women decide that, from that very minute, they will go and become a servant to the world.

PLEASE don’t! It is easier to do things for the world, and very hard to do it for people such as your spouse or your family. Please, start with your own realm. Once you master your skills in your queendom, you will naturally affect a bigger segment of the world. Therefore, coming back to our original question: can a  woman be fulfilled in a family? YES. However, this only happens when she uses all of her potentials. When she learns how to give and doesn’t ask to be paid back. She must learn to serve (take care) without expectations, to love everyone without asking to be loved back. Only after she has done all this for her life and family, will a woman be truly able to go out in the world and rock it with her inner power.

A woman will make things happen without being exhausted, but with joy and all of her natural God-given power. If you tell me “I don’t fit that life”, I will tell you – it is not true. You do. It is only a lack of desire to change your views that hold you back. You’ve become so comfortable in your own stinky pond that you don’t want change. You are afraid to change it to a lovely, fresh, and endless ocean with so many opportunities. You are just procrastinating and running from yourself – from your own boundless happiness. Think about your feelings of your true nature. Remember that your true female nature is given to you at birth and the power of it is endless.