I have been reading a lot of criticism online about a few of my articles where I am calling for women to be more feminine, and less competitive with their men. I’ve read many “proud” comments like – “I am independent and if he can’t take it, get out of my way”. Those comments made me smile sadly and want to write more about it in hopes that I may be heard, or at least get some women to reconsider or question their stance.

The Power of Being a Woman

So, I want to start with a few statements that hopefully will clarify who we, women, are and why it is good to be a woman. Take a look at little girls, they are innocent to start with. Women’s nature in itself is innocence from the get-go. Women are beautiful! Women have great intuition. We just need to be able to trust it much more than we usually do. Who can make a cozy home out of anything? A woman. Women have the capability to make others feel better, and sympathize deeply. Women can create strong connections with others and keep them that way for decades.

Women deliver children (many men, by the way, would love the opportunity to experience carrying a child for 9 months next to their heart and feel every movement – it is a true and distinct miracle). Those are only a few of the many capabilities a woman has. These are things for you to think about, and I’m sure you can create a list and name many more. Try to do it right now, as it will deepen your own understanding of female nature and empowerment right here.

We should be kind, loving, smiley, a little stupid, a little nonchalant – a woman…. we were born in a female body – do you think God made a mistake? Or it is you who is making a mistake dashing away from femininity…but, to where?

We, women, have a great power to create or destroy. We can support a man and allow him to become a successful, responsible, and loving person who takes care of his family proudly. But, we can also destroy a man and make him a couch potato, or even worse, an alcoholic. Yes, that’s right! That is what we can do, and easily! It is all possible if we accept our feminine nature and fully embrace it.

If You Are Strong, What Do You Expect Your Man To Be?

When I read comments about a woman being strong, I almost always ask: what do you expect from a man if you take that kind of position? If you are strong and independent, what do you expect him to be? In many cases, I read “strong, successful, responsible, etc”. But, if you talk with men who have those exact features, they will tell you they want their woman to be feminine, calm, happy, kind, caring, and to take care of the house as well as him. Can you see the difference from what women declare? And those men are extremely successful, strong, and charismatic males. Yet, when women read my responses they state: “we don’t need a man who wants us to be that weak person (a real woman)”.

Why do we – as women –  think that a man next to a strong woman still wants her to be strong? He has enough strong and competitive friends around. He doesn’t need another one in his bed. He wants a soft, silky-skinned, sensitive, and sometimes girl-like

woman, who can be a little crazy once in a while. Someone who can make him laugh, yet state her desires in a lovable, non-aggressive way to the point of making him want to fulfill them all. He wants to have a woman who can make a cup of tea when he is tired, without expectations of a tit-for-tat thing. Someone who can put her head on his shoulder and his worries will go away only because of that simple comforting movement.

Why would he want to have a demanding, strong person at home who constantly fights for an opinion, for being correct; a competitive being that he already has outside of his household, in his friends?

Let’s take a look at some qualities that a woman has to have.

Kindness

Isn’t it very attractive when we see a kind woman? We react on it right away, don’t we? It is a very feminine quality that, when displayed, helps others overcome many rough moments in life, and helps a man back off when he needs to.

Simplicity

So many people these days use complicated words when they communicate, and their friends in many cases don’t have a clue what the other is talking about. It is okay among men because it is their world and only they understand each other, but it is not something that a woman should be partaking in. She needs to be simple, simple to be able to explain things to her child, her in-laws, and so on. Women’s nature is simple. That is the beauty of it. Look around, flowers are simple, yet stunning, and let everyone enjoy their beauty. The same should be for a woman.

Sympathy

It is very important to learn not to judge others. Let them be the way they are, while also providing them with support. A woman’s life is a relationship with everyone and everything. She must learn how to share something with a friend, how to support them, or a husband. It is important that everyone who communicates with a woman feels that comfort and ease. For that matter, we need to learn how to support our friends and family and pat them on the back regularly.

Fidelity

It is not only physical fidelity, but most important it should be mental. A woman should know that her man is the best and doesn’t ever question it under any circumstances. We need to be sure that if we pick a man for us, he is THE BEST there is! Period!

Believe in your man.

Trust that he will do things correctly. Don’t think that he won’t be able to accomplish things. Let him figure some things on his own and believe in him! This is a huge invisible support for him that gives him power to fight, to do deals, to bring money, to be successful. Isn’t it what we all want? Then, believe in him! Don’t try to things all by yourself. It is not appropriate. It’ll ruin your marriage and it will weaken your man. Do you really want that? Or do you want a man, who treats you like a queen? Then let him do things on his own!

It is crucial for us to learn how to open our heart and soul to our loved one. Our husband has to know what we do, and how we feel. It is important for him to understand his woman. Don’t think that he won’t understand you or laugh at you, he won’t. Trust me, whenever you hide things from your husband, those things are ruining your marriage. In the long run, you want to be open with him. It is an

ultimate comfort and calmness. When you share something precious with each other, your thoughts, your worries – those are the moments that make your family stronger and more loving!

Besides, when you chose to get married, why’d you choose to? Your husband should be the closest person to you. He should be your friend, lover, soul mate, your confidant,

and so on. So why do we still try to foster masculine qualities in ourselves making our partners, and everyone around us, miserable? We should be kind, loving, smiley, a little stupid, a little nonchalant – a woman…. we were born in a female body – do you think God made a mistake? Or it is you, who is making a mistake dashing away from femininity…but, to where?