Right now, it’s the holiday season and we should be celebrating it! We should be happy but somehow some of us can’t help but feel sad and depressed. It seems to be a classic trend that people tend to get down in the dumps during the holiday season. Let’s take a closer look at this phenomena, but first, some background information.

Since I was young,  any Ex’s in my life, be it, ex-boyfriends, ex-friends or any other kind of ex, always seem to find a way back into my life. In fact, it always seems like when the holiday season comes around, they end up contacting me. It has gotten to the point that every holiday season I can almost predict who decides to send me a text message, no matter how bad the breakup was. Because of this, a question came to my mind: “why do people let go of their damaged ego during the holiday season and reach out?”?

The obvious initial thought would be because they feel lonely, but it’s a little deeper than that.

So then what does it all come down to? I’ll tell you. It comes down to us as human beings not being able to live alone. It comes down to a primal need for a partner, for loved ones, for a family. Now to all of you who are “self-sufficient”, all of you who claim that you don’t need anyone but yourself in life, take an honest look at how you feel during the holidays.

Don’t believe me? Well, take a look at statistics. During the holiday season, suicide rates are higher than any other time of the year. This increased rate of depression and suicidal behavior can be correlated to the overall atmosphere of the holidays. Media constantly shows us happy families, smiles, and cheer. While the intentions of this broadcasted media are positive, it simultaneously brings out the misery of those who have been repressing it over the year. Ordinary people can’t seem to look at it without feeling sorry for themselves if they don’t have little Mary of little Michael at home.

To counter, one might say additional statistics state that there is a higher divorce rate after the holiday season than any other time of the year. Though this may be true, the reason behind it can be related to a completely different, but equally as depressing truth about modern society. Modern relationships are often built off of selfish behavior. People stay in relationships to see what kind of “gifts” they can get out of it, be it emotional or physical. Often times people have forgotten how to love without expecting anything in return. It’s always about “me” or “I”.

Don’t you think it’s sad?

Look at our society? Look how low we’ve fallen. Look how shallow we are.

It is something to think about because it is very vivid during the holiday season. It’s a yearly sickness that hides itself during the year but over the holiday, beams out of its owner’s hearts and souls.

But what if we change all that? What if those, who don’t have families, start doing something for neighbors, or for coworkers. Make a cake, decorate and put a card with greetings – a single action will bring you peace. Call your friends and decorate their house with them. Volunteer on a holiday to clean dishes. Go take a class, learn how to make postcards with your hands and make it! Trust me, your partner will love it.

Holidays are not about spending money even though the media wants us to believe it. Holidays are about thinking of each other. Bringing love and warmth home. Not expecting but giving without reservations. Giving acts are the only thing that brings a total sense happiness to all people! I’m sure you’ve heard it, but I am asking you TO FOLLOW. Happy holidays and all the best to all of you from the bottom of my heart.