As a busy woman it is easy to get lost when it comes to time management. Getting preoccupied with so many different tasks can happen so quickly that you don’t even realize what has happened until it’s already over. Everyday your a psychologist (listening to your friends and family, giving advice), an educator (teaching your children the do’s and don’ts of life), a manager (managing the flow and environment of your household), a chef (preparing meals for everyone in the house), a housekeeper (maintaining the cleanliness of your home), and an event planner (planning and purchasing tickets for any and all special occasions). Juggling all these jobs can be somewhat trying and troubling.
No matter what is on your plate though it is important to remember that your husband and then the children should come first in your life.
Neglecting your husband due to not making him your number one priority can create a lot of problems within your life. The husband and wife are the foundation for the marriage and ultimately the family. The happier they are, the stronger the marriage is, and in turn the better your life will be. Our job as wives is to continue to grow our relationship, creating a healthier family for our children. This comes when we put in the necessary effort to build and maintain our time so that we are then physically able to prioritize. Other unimportant things should never overshadow the relationship you have with your husband because this can lead to him feeling unimportant and eventually drive him to the background. None of these things are healthy for a marriage or a family. Make sure he knows how important he is to you through your words, as well as your actions. Tell him, show him – let him know in any possible way. Don’t be afraid to sacrifice something in your personal life, trust me it will be paid back big time down the road.
Make enough time to do all the housework, dress yourself in a clean manner, and do your hair before he comes home from work. Greet him with a smile and make sure you are all ears to listen to him FIRST! You need to greet him, not the children with their “news”, but YOU!
A woman who doesn’t know how to manage her time is damaging for a family in many cases.
There are many instances where children are also but on the back burner because you have other priorities that you put more focus on. For example, work. When work becomes a part of your daily life and takes up all your time, it is easy for children to doubt a mother’s love and in many cases, those children feel rejected the most throughout their life. Imagine, when you are at work, your job is a priority and sometimes it can be demanding…. so kids are less demanding? That is their feeling. I’ve heard a lot of moms say that when they come home they will spend all their free time with kids and make up for their absence. But in many cases, this is not true. A woman is too tired when she comes home to pay adequate attention to them.
This might be a drastic change in lifestyle, but if you make it through it will be worth it. If you fail during the transition, don’t put yourself down. Get up and think about why you failed, and how you can change things the next time around. We weren’t built to be miserable so it’s our job to prevent anyone in our household from feeling that way. Think about what should be your main focus and open the door to happiness. Managing our time to make time for our main priorities will ultimately lead to an overall more rewarding and happy life!
