We are often faced with situations in our life where we have had great intimate relationships at the beginning of a relationship – talking, spending time together, and just being very close in general. Then, after a while, having at that fade away. Sometimes women question themselves, thinking “why did he stop paying attention to me? Am I not attractive anymore to him? Is there something wrong with me, or it is him?”. Nevertheless, couples start having trouble due to the initial closeness fading away.
Let’s look at it more closely. What is truly needed to feel attached and close to your spouse?
Every woman wants to feel loved and desired in every way.
In many cases, women have a certain “standard” for being in a relationship. These standards contain things such as: how many times a week are couples intimate. Once a week is okay, but if they haven’t been intimate for more than two or three weeks – it creates anxiety. It makes her feel as if something is wrong. It brings her sense of vulnerability and lack of structure.
LET’S THINK ABOUT THE IDEA OF MANIPULATION THROUGH INTIMACY. MANIPULATION THROUGH INTIMACY IS A MAJOR PART OF OUR SOCIETY AND BECAUSE OF THIS, A WOMAN FEARS LOSING CONTROL OVER A MAN.
On the other hand, there are women who truly want to have a loving, close relationship. Those women also want intimate contact because through this, it derives enjoyment. Therefore, she blossoms. She is happy, smiley and, of course, a pleasure to be around.
SO, BEFORE WE START WORKING ON OURSELVES, WE NEED TO FIGURE OUT FIRST WHAT DRIVES US TO BE INTIMATE. BASED ON AN ANSWER, WE NEED TO ALTER EITHER OUR ACTIONS OR OUR BELIEFS.
A true relationship is only possible if a woman enjoys being intimate as a form of closeness, through giving herself without expectations or conditions. Only then will a man desire her as a woman. If she wants to manipulate the relationship, it is not going to bring her full desire, and therefore will not help the relationship in any aspect. We all need to learn how to give, without waiting if anything in return.
Unfortunately, we live in a society that normalizes the importance of money and the importance of the idea “MY way or the highway”. Relationships formed these days are often based on some kind of ulterior motive. Because of this, we are left with a society of people who are afraid of any kind of relationship. Media and propaganda have distorted the idea of relationships to the point that many fail to have a full understanding of what is needed to create a lo Save ng-lasting relationship.
We all have forgotten how to come home and just hug our spouse – just because. Instead, we expect them to hug us. We don’t buy presents just because, we wait for an event or occasion, and wait for a spouse do the same and so on.
Where here do you see love and giving?
