Why do we want more then we have? Why can’t we live in the moment?

I woke up with these questions today. Based on a lot of articles I’m writing, one might think I know what I’m doing, and I live my life correctly etc. No! I’m not perfect, and I do ask questions, and I am very strict and disciplined with myself more than with others. You know why? Because everything starts with you. If you are not ideal, how can you ask for another person to be ideal? If you’re not loving, how can you expect another person to be loving towards you? Let alone many of us have internal programs that attract self-destruction.

Going back to my questions. I woke up this morning and looked at my son who was peacefully sucking on my breast while everyone was still asleep, and thought: why am I not with him at that very moment, but somewhere else in my thoughts planning the day, thinking of other activities and errands. I wonder if it’s my ego and desire to make things perfect that gets in my way, or something else.

Here I was sitting on the couch and thinking about myself and wondering how many lives the same lifestyle without even asking that question themselves. Then my thoughts went on and I wonhttps://www.wordsoftheprincess.com/princessadm/post-new.php?wp-post-new-reload=truedered what’s missing in our lives when we live like that?

Well, I know that in the society we live in today, everyone talks about being present and living this moment and so on. But how many of us truly have thought about it? And how many of us apply that in our own lives?

So let me start telling you what I realized. Even though you’ve read and heard about this, but if you’re not truly living in the very moment, I’ll let you that not dealing with your life now. I can hear you telling me that you know this, and you’re living now. But let me ask you when was the last time you heard 7 different sounds from the streets — including the leaves on the trees? When was the last time when you felt the air on your skin and sun caressing it? When was the last time you ate something and recognized the number flavors you had in that meal? I bet you can’t remember.

Don’t you think it is a little hypocritical that you think you live in the now, yet you can’t remember a moment when you really lived in the now? I’ll ask you this again, do you know how many of us live in that illusion? It’s easy for our ego because our ego doesn’t want to let us just be. If we lived like that we wouldn’t have all that stress that we carry. We wouldn’t be so competitive because there wouldn’t be a need for that. However, in our society, it’s almost a must. Girls have to be fostered with femininity, yet they are raised with a competitive mind, playing all kinds competitive games like soccer. If I had a daughter I would be damned if I let her play unless she really wants it.

Instead, I would be teaching my daughter how to cook, how to take care of herself and her body, and how to be a woman, because it all starts at childhood.

So, thinking about a moment in the future diverts our attention from the finer things in life. We don’t have to think about raising our children right now, yet I’ve heard so many times from women who raised their kids that they would’ve done things differently if they had another chance. You know what, I don’t want to have those thoughts in 20 or 30 years. I don’t want to look at my child and feel sad because he or she has insecurities that I had given him or her because I’m not present now, but living in a moment in the past or the future. Who cares about the past or future… What can you do about your past? Nothing. Why don’t we just start healing and working in the past, and move forward at the same time? Who cares about the future? Who knows what’s going to happen tomorrow?

Yet, if we live right now right at this moment, we’re doing the best we can for tomorrow.

We are present and aware of what’s going on. And let’s say we have a challenging situation going on where we need all our strength. Instead of panicking, we gather ourselves and live in the now, doing all we can do calmly and firmly.

Do you recall movies which have a ton of chaos going on, but the main character still does things calmly and firmly? Somehow, he is at the right moment and the right place, while doing the right things? Remember, it’s only because he’s present and is living in the now.

Why does it look like we get used to living either in the past or in the future, but not right now? It is easier for us to live in a mess and find justifications for ourselves and blame others and deal with anger and sadness, rather than enjoy life. Why is that? Do you think it’s boring when things are good and happiness is not a concept but a way of life?

What would you have in your life if you started being present? What situations and emotions would you need to deal with in your household with your partner with your children with parents, or even inside of you? How would that be different from what you have right now? Maybe it’s time to start living in the now, rather than in the past or the future.