More thoughts on self-esteem… Are you ready?!

Do you like it when a guy gives you presents and gifts? Can you accept it? Would you like to have more, or would you rather that you never received a single thing? When I say presents, I’m not talking about gift cards or a bottle of a cologne bought in an airport last minute to avoid feeling embarrassed; I’m talking about a really thought out gift that was bought specifically for you. Are you one of the few who can say that they have it..?

How do you feel when you see a woman whose man has been giving her clothes, diamonds, rings, cars, all kinds of jewelry etc. I’m pretty sure you’re going to tell me that you don’t want that because you prefer to either buy it yourself or be independent, or something else. But would you be true to your feelings? Maybe you are a little jealous inside that you can’t have it, and therefore, instead of feeling like a little girl on a festive celebration, you feel like a scrawny goal achiever. What are your true feelings?

If you have never experienced that, or have only had a few colognes, then you need to think about why?. Here, we are circling around the same self-esteem situation we talked about earlier in a different post: the lack of self-esteem attracts a man who doesn’t want to give his woman a thing!

Only a woman who has a healthy self-esteem can give her man the feeling of a little girl, even though she may be very independent.

Do you know why? She knows how to respect men’s nature; she can let him lead and make all the decisions without criticizing or humoring him. With such a woman, he feels like a man who can make mistakes and would still be the best, a man who can be responsible and feel even more valued… Can you give your man those feelings of security that they need? Because they do need them in order to perform at their best.

So, do you think a woman who’s struggling with self-identity and self-worth is able to give any of that to a man? I doubt it. She’d more likely be very opinionated, which is not inherently bad; what’s bad is that she believes that he has to think, and therefore do as she thinks, while forgetting that men share a different nature than women do. She’s going to be very merry go around with her thoughts and actions, but that brings a man to an emotional roller coaster that he doesn’t like to be on. No one likes it! Women who lack self-esteem can’t control her emotions at all because through her emotions, she’s trying to attract attention, or feel better about herself on a certain topic and so on…

Another area I’d like to talk about is compliments. Can you accept them? How easy is it for you? Do you think your worth it? Or do you have hard time with complements, and become shy every time you receive one? Or any other feeling for that matter? What are they?

Once again, a woman with a healthy self-esteem would be very comfortable in accepting compliments. She wouldn’t be saying “oh, thank you thank you thank you” but roll her eyes after. She would just say “thank you” and have a full appreciation for the man who just made that compliment. That’s something to think about, right?

That self-esteem thing really gets you going when you start thinking and outlining things like that, but I’ll give you more and more thoughts on that topic because I can’t put everything in one article. I’ll speak more about it later. In the meantime, think about all the small points I mentioned for now, and I’ll see you soon…