Where do I want to start?  Honestly, I have so many thoughts and none of them seem to be right to start with.  

A few years ago I heard for the first time from someone about the whole thing about egg count, stimulation, collection, and storage.

I became interested in it immediately since I’ve heard about it mostly when one would either try to get pregnant or if a couple was considering their future.  This was the first time hearing about this from a single person whose life was a total mess and thought to freeze her eggs because the man she was with was not ready to commit.

Her vision was to get at least a baby if nothing else and that would make her happy.  I was shocked at that moment, and I told her that her approach is entirely wrong and will not have a good outcome.  Since I constantly speak about consequences, I’ll tell you today’s situation.  She is now pregnant, with no man, and who knows what will happen after her delivery.  She is using this child as bandwidth for testing the baby’s father, but there is no relationship there.  I mean no real relationship or any sort of commitment.

I’ve been hearing about this process constantly, and today, I heard it from someone who is pretty close to me.  It made me think that I wanted to share my thoughts with you.

God created humans in pairs for a reason.

We all should learn from our differences. We should adjust our egos while adopting each other’s habits trying to make it work. The biggest challenge is to be with each other since it’s quintessential to learn about ourselves through our partner’s eyes. We heal our souls and as a result, we have children. 

Having three children myself, I can tell you that children show us ourselves in so many areas.  That is why you sometimes get so upset with them or overreact.  It is because they are mirroring and it’s annoying if your soul is wounded.  It’s YOUR being that starts leaking blood, not the child’s problem.

Now, let’s see how egg storage plays into all of that.  A girl doesn’t want to change anything in her life, doesn’t want to change her thinking, or adjust her lifestyle, or heal her childhood wounds.  She wants to follow the “societal” set protocol and have babies. That is not correct in the first place since children are not toys that you can buy and then break and discard.  A baby is a precious soul that you are entrusted with.  Another issue that will arise with all that is not knowing how healthy your eggs are. 

Everyone says that you need to be young but now, many young people are so unhealthy and some older people are much healthier not only on a physical level but also emotionally.  So here we go, egg collection, then storage.  How much money one will pay for egg harvesting, and then collection, and then storage? For how many years? Are you waiting for Mister Perfect?  Or are you waiting for somebody who will agree to support you? 

Once again, if you don’t want to work on yourself, you would not know the answer to these questions.  Once again, even with eggs frozen and healthy, you may get yourself a troubled family.  The older we get the less likely we can change or easily change.  What is the next step?  Donor insemination?

Do you think that your eggs will take off immediately? They may not, none of them may.  Once again, it brings us to a correct inner work that one would have done on oneself before pregnancy.  In the egg collection case, we don’t need to “do” anything. 

Nature created us in a certain way. We should “do” something in order to give us an opportunity to have a child in our life. 

Perhaps we take charge in too many areas that we shouldn’t. There are always exceptions, and having this option is definitely good, but too many people are using it as a crutch for themselves rather than the last reserve in case of a colossal failure. 

I’ll tell you more.  If you have cleaned your own horse stables, you’ll get everything you want including a man and a child.  You can party or just live an unconscious lifestyle till 40. Then you decide to put stored eggs in, and they won’t take successful fertilization.  Imagine the disaster that it would be.  Say one meets a man and they decide to use eggs and again, no feelings?! 

Again, a disaster.  So people, please be wiser! Don’t just jump into doing something because everyone is doing it.  Please think.  It’s a child’s life you are playing with and your own emotional state.  Your well-being is at stake.  Both are tragically impacted if there is a failure of any kind.

Be smart, be kind to yourself, be loving to souls that are coming, or may come your way. 

A final few words to remember as you are pondering all of this.  Think about your life and not just about keeping some eggs on ice.  Work on yourself:

Life is what happens while you are busy planning…