What you are going to read is probably not something that you are used to read from me but I want to speak to you about it as I see tons of people and families affected by a subject…politics.

A few years ago I met a woman, we had a nice conversation where I started off on the topic about her and her family, then she jumped into a political situation. At one point she was almost yelling even though I hadn’t spoken to her on the matter but just listened. After 7-8 min of listening to her I asked her why was she so obsessed. She wasn’t able to say anything besides “Geez we all need to be conscientious…”

A few weeks after that, I had dinner with a couple, a woman, when I wanted to speak about life and things in life, she ALSO jumped into political conversation. Again railing herself up to a point of yelling (her poor husband was sitting with his eyes down saying nothing but his body language was clear to me. It wasn’t something he loved about their life)…

Later, when I had to counsel the first lady from this article, I figured out that her marriage started sort of going sideways after her political ravings lasted months. Her husband saw that she was getting into a specific mental state, which for us equates to a women being dangerous.

Those kinds of thoughts are bringing us instability, concern and emotional stress that we pour on one another without even noticing.

Second lady had a pretty cold relationship because her views were too strong for her man to feel cuddly and sweet around her. He felt like he was with another dude conversing.

I, myself grew up in a very political oriented family. And every time when there was something about politics spoken or my parents were involved in something political, they would be home angry and frustrated. They yelled, they frowned while my brother and I never knew what was happening…

One of my friends has been educating kids on politics, as well as cancer and you know what, kids are becoming less playful in their age and more stressed. We don’t think about what we put on their little shoulders. They have no idea what it is that they are hearing about and why mommy is that angry and cold with the topic. Unless you have a child who is asking particular political questions, only then should you response. However, don’t force your political view on them. Don’t rob them from childhood.

I feel we need to be more conscience of what we are doing to each other.

Do you think if you get into a heated conversation with your husband and you have opposite views it’ll help your marriage? Do you think you’ll want to cuddle him in an hour after speaking on this topic? Do you think if you tell your child that taxes got higher because of that crazy man in the TV, your child will understand and let this wanting out? Do you think if you load yourself with an idea of immigration law that may affect you, it’ll bring you calmness and willingness to smile at people? From my experience, all examples are going to end up with someone being angry at somebody…as a result you are going to yell at somebody or get yelled at…

So how is being deeply involved in politics really helping us as a human being? I want to make a little remark-I’m talking about us…women- men have a different set up for things like that. Being in politics for men is a different type of sport and their nervous system can tolerate it better then women.

But in any event, let’s go back to my question: how is it helping? Yes we can talk about that during a social event and we can catch glances of: wow, she knows…and that would be it…it’s like Instagram. People see a pic and go wow, then forget or get envious but the person who put it up doesn’t have satisfaction for more then a second and it does more harm than good. See where I’m going? I foresee that some of you will bombard me with a torrent of bad words and shaking feasts, but how about that. Try to turn off politics and news and everything that relates to it for a month. See how you’d feel, see how your family feels, your spouse. Will you have more cuddles and sex? Do your children have fun with mommy more? More laughing at home? More love flowing around? What about work? Less stress? More satisfaction?

See for yourself. Don’t just trust me. Try it and figure out what works best for you.

You may end up with the realization that knowing what’s going on in politics makes you feel stressed and angry.

Better somehow, then suit yourself.

It’s your choice when it comes to the quality of life you want.

Happy or miserable…it’s up to you, just learn to own it 🙂