Everyday we are faced with the decision of embracing our flaws, giving ourselves self-confidence or hiding our flaws, worrying about if people will notice them. Everyone goes through this kind of question when they wake up. Some are just simply better at hiding their struggles when compared to others. I can see a lot of people around me who have learned how to maintain and portray an image of confidence pretty well, but when you look closely you’ll see a person who lacks any sort of self esteem and, in many cases, has some hidden flaw that he or she hides…or tries to hide. Keeping up with appearances is the worst way to live because when you’re young and sassy, that may work for you somehow, but what happens when you grow up? 

Hiding instead of dealing with these flaws won’t work forever. 

You need to accept your body the way it is. You need to be comfortable with your body and form that you got from nature, no matter what. In fact, you need to — especially — live out the parts you’re not comfortable with the most! For women, this is very important because all of us come from families where our mothers were not always gentle, and as a result we all have our painful memories don’t help us with our self-esteem at all; it is the opposite. However, this is what we should recognize, realize, work through, and fix so that life can be a ‘happily ever after’. 

In addition to be embracing the flaws that people can see, what about the flaws on the inside that only you know about? Outer confidence should be built on inner confidence where one realizes that whatever is happening is not better or worse when being compared to others. I’ve seen it over and over, people hung up on their own exterior confidence and image only to face their later years of life with fear, neglect, and emptiness. So it’s important to find a balance among the two when avoiding hiding your flaws. There are more important things in life than stressing about how you look, in turn affecting how you feel on a daily basis. When you really understand the value of life and the people/things around you, the concept of life changes drastically.

Why is it always the hardest to be kind to yourself?

Everyone is very quick to reminisce on their “golden days” where they were happy with the way they looked, they way the felt, etc. So why can’t the present be the “golden days”? We have the power to make this dream a reality by simply giving ourselves the self-esteem and confidence that we deserve. Without self-confidence, one won’t be able to achieve anything. This balance of confidence and embracing one’s flaws allows you to form strong deep relationships, which in turn brings calmness to one’s life. With inner self-confidence, one’s mind is not racing thing about the future or past. Instead, the person becomes balanced as he/she gets a full understanding of their own universe. With outer-confidence, one is able to not let any outside comments bring them down. They understand what is best for them and as a result, they develop a very strong intuition. Now, you tell me if you see benefits in establishing a healthy balance of self-confidence.