All of you are aware that I’m a strong believer in women’s power and their purpose; however, I have spent a lot of time observing and thinking about that mission, and if it is even necessary to have family and children, and so on.

Something happened recently in the life that compelled me to write this article in order to clarify the thoughts of women who might have an opinion contrary to mine.

Let me start off by telling you: YOU ARE RIGHT! You’re right about women’s roles in modern everyday life. We all live — unfortunately — with certain preconceptions in our minds. I would say that one of them includes distorted images of successful women today.

Let me start off by assuring you that every woman can be very very happy and satisfied even without a family, a man, and children.

Let’s start by pondering about marriage. In today’s era, it is absolutely normal for some to be single up until our mid-30s. Nonetheless, I definitely agree that being in a relationship and having a man are important moments in a woman’s life. Being with a man gives us the strongest lessons, realizations, and uncovers our nature unlike anything else in life.

To start off, I want to clarify that for some, marriage happens later in life, which is absolutely normal today. Times have changed. Something that was the norm many years ago, is obsolete today. The times we live in dictates different realizations and social norms. So, today, when a woman is waiting for her Prince Charming she has to do a couple of things:

  • Don’t wait for him and waste your life away
  • Learn how to be happy without him, so when Prince Charming finally comes into your life, you can provide happiness — and not misery — for both your lives

 

I don’t know how many of you belief in the power of the universe/ God or whatever other names you have for a higher authority, but I want to point this out: sometimes life gives you something only when you’ve done the necessary work on yourself. Many of us don’t want to do anything, yet want to have it all. Life doesn’t happen that way.

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Anyhow, back to marriage. My advice is to learn how to be balanced alone.

Another point I want to make is that some women are destined to grow not in the family, but in society. They are extremely strong, smart, independent, and really focused on doing the right thing. Today, we see more and more of these women who can’t push themselves to be family-oriented. Before you jump to the conclusion that you belong to this category of women, ask yourself again if you truly belong to this category, or do you just not want to do any work for yourself. Remember: it’s easier to do nothing; it’s a lot more work to be successful than being miserable!

Regarding the topic of children, I do talk a lot about children, and I advocate having as many children as you can, but some of us are simply not suited to have kids. Of course, for those who are meant to be mothers, having children is a life-changing experience.

While motherhood enhances a woman’s life, unfortunately there are some who don’t have that in their script of life.

It is their destiny to be social. However, even if a woman doesn’t have any children, she should not be demanding or condescending towards other women and men. It is, in fact, the opposite: women who don’t have children of their own have to be mothers for others. For example, as a worker, she needs to be motherly and sweet with her co-workers. It doesn’t mean that she has to let them do anything they want, but that she needs to think of others, take care of others in a motherly way, despite not being an actual mother to them.

Every woman needs to be motherly and gentle with everyone she encounters in her life, and water her inner mother. Every woman has it in them, but the question is how we let that inner mother out, and how we can experience that in our lives. It won’t be easy. In fact, it will be a lot of work 🙂

But don’t let yourself be fooled: most of our perceptions aren’t necessarily ‘correct’, but there are a few that we need to adjust, understand and apply to today’s life, and still live by them. Being a woman is one of them: we really need to understand what it means to be a woman and act on it. We need to change our lives and perceptions, and not let anyone make us feel miserable and unfit for this world.

I hope this article has shown that a woman can find her own, solid place in this world no matter her destiny, but they have to do so with a correct application of the knowledge of being a woman.