Is the Virus Making You Realize That You Need A Divorce?

Here is one of the many jokes I hear in the humor around the virus:

 Announcer: Okay. We are here talking with a man who has just found out he is about to be locked down for an indefinite period of time. 

“Sir: You are going to be locked up for a long time and you have two choices.

A: You can be locked up with your wife and your two children.

Man (interrupting): B! I Chose B!”

I always want to speak about something relevant for you and sometimes I wait

too long before I write. I like to collect some data before I present information and thoughts.  But now, I have been silent a bit too long. We are all experiencing something right now that we have never had before and I’d like to talk about how it affects us and our families.

 We all are so used to living in our imaginary world that some of us almost experience a sort of shock when we had to stay home. We had lived with a certain picture of ourselves and our family or our relationship and now it’s gotten taken away from us.  All of a sudden we got stripped down to the bare minimum and we can’t hide. We had created a picture of our lives so many years ago that it’s sort of becoming us, and we don’t even recognize what is wrong with it.

For many people, when we’re ordered to stay home or don’t go to work and were forced to stop doing our things, it caused crazy stress because we all have to be with ourselves 24/7 which we had never done before. 

I have friends all over the world and 80% of them have felt discomfort, boredom, and many other negative feelings.  This is only because all of a sudden they are forced to be either with only their families or on their own without distraction or outside entertainment. We have forgotten how to face ourselves and our families. Suddenly, there is no need to dress up, no need to put on a good appearance, no ability to do manicure, no ability to get a haircut, no ability to go to the restaurants and get drunk, no posts on Facebook or Instagram falsely tracking our lives, etc.

People had to look inside. The universe has made us start thinking and seeing something inside. It took everything that could distract us and left us with an important task to start figuring out who we really are. Many families are going through challenges now since they don’t even know each other anymore and only are a reflection of their patterns and daily routine. 

Many got married under some sort of structured influence because they had been dating for “so long” or because they had a comfortable or convenient picture of each other or society push.  And now, reality has hit them overhead hard; and they are either bored with each other because they are shallow, or the person next to them they’ve never seen before. Those who are alone all experience the stress of being alone while internally realizing that it’s not good not to be able to share thoughts with anyone.  Being alone is stressful, we need people to communicate with.

 No gathering, no socializing, drinking, sharing meals. Nothing is simple, simple silence is tough.  Hopefully, some of us would realize after the quarantine that we should be working on finding a good partner and changing things in ourselves in order to attract a good one.

This virus situation spotlighted a lot of things for many of us. Many of us showed their real faces, the nation showed its real face. Things got stripped down and there was no more pretentiousness left.

A lot of insecurities presented themselves.  A lot of fears, tons of uncertainty, and many people had no ability to comprehend or deal with a lot of things, let along not being able to learn something from the situation.

 I’ve heard mothers who got tired of their children because they were forced to stay with them and all of a sudden they have to deal with something that they had been avoiding for years. And now, their munchkins piss them off because moms lost their space and privacy. They don’t even ask themselves why it’s happening and how they affected their little ones.  That’s the moment I’m home with a child shadowing me everywhere, that is a sign for a mom to ask herself, why my child is doing this? 

Why is my child so insecure and fearful of me disappearing and many other similar questions?  And while the COVID is happening, we are having and will be having a lot of situations when we would need to face the music. Now we have time to either fix it, pay attention, recognize it finally, or at least try to deal with it and maybe make an adjustment that would work in the long run for us and our families.

In short, I’m asking you to look around and revisit your life. Revisit your relationships, look at yourself, and what is happening now with you. Try to assess what it is that you are angry at?  Where this anger is coming from and maybe try to finally see its roots since you had been avoiding admitting it for decades.  Now is the time to clean our brains, our hearts.  Stop just talking about “spirituality” but start practicing and inviting it in our hearts.  

Start revisiting our ego situations and deal with them.  Start seeing how we all are the same, without Instagram, cars, clothes, and make-up. No one is better or worse, we must start coming back to ourselves!  It’s not only hearing a slogan from a pitchman who knows nothing since his life is mostly empty but filled with mottos and platitudes. Its time to take stock of ourselves and dig in and be whole. Feel strong about who you are and love and be of service openly to your husband or wife and your precious family. 

Think. Act. Commit.

The universe is clearly giving us a message, let’s hear it out!